Communication Styles

Communication - the human connection - is the key to personal and career success. ~ Paul J.  Meyer

This week's theme is the three different prominent communication styles: assertive, aggressive, and passive.  I will provide education about each of the three different styles and you can determine which category you fit in.

Assertive communication is a straightforward, direct, and firm approach that allows for open expression of your needs, thoughts, and feelings.  This involves advocating for yourself while respecting the needs of others.  An example of assertive communication is: " I need help with folding laundry."

Aggressive communication is a method of expressing one's needs without taking into consideration the needs, thoughts, and feelings of others. People who express themselves with the use of assertive communication are often viewed as selfish or uncooperative. An aggressive communication style is usually linked to poor emotional development or a intentional desire to hurt another person.  An example of aggressive communication is: "You never help with the dishes." A positive way to re- frame this would be: "I need your help with the dishes."

Passive communication is a form of expression that is ineffective.  A person who uses this type of communication is usually afraid or scared of confrontation and does not feel worthy enough to make their needs, thoughts, and feelings known to others.  This person is afraid of saying no or making others angry. A doormat is what comes to my mind when thinking of this communication style. An example of passive communication is: "Well, I guess I can take you to the mall even though I have to go to work."

Which communication style do you fit in?  Do you need help with learning tools to be a more effective communicator?  Call one of our psychotherapists at 954-800-0108 to develop assertiveness!