Thursday, June 20, 2013

The Act of Kindness

Often, either consciously or unconsciously, we want something from others, especially when we have done something for them.  An example would be- " I made dinner, he should clean the kitchen." or "I took her child to summer camp last week, she should offer this week." Do these thoughts sound about right?  We are too busy keeping score of our good deeds that we forget that giving is it's own reward.

When you do something nice for someone, just to do it, you will notice beautiful emotions of kindness, love, and peace within yourself. You will feel the reward associated with the act of kindness. You do not need anything in return, not even a "thank you." The interference of our own  thoughts of reciprocity gets in the way of experiencing the emotions associated with being kind. These thoughts clutter our mind and we get caught up in our own agenda.  The solution is simple. Notice your own agenda and gently dismiss those thoughts and positive emotions will surface.

See if you can think of something thoughtful to do for another person, and don't expect anything in return.  Notice how you feel and tap into those positive emotions. Practice this and the beautiful emotions you experience will be the perfect amount of reward.

Kacee's self-help book recommendation: Don't Sweat the Small Stuff and it's all small stuff by Richard Carlson, PH.D.

Thursday, June 6, 2013

Stressed? Having a hectic day? Your path to Relaxation.

Just imagine for one minute all the stress in your world has disappeared.  Imagine how you think you would feel.  Now, snap back to reality as you realize that you are in front of your computer screen.  The reality is stress, good and bad, will always be present in our lives. One of the most beneficial solutions is to practice the art of mindfulness to find balance, to feel centered, and to be relaxed. Follow these simple steps and you will be on your way to feeling calmer: (1) Take 5 to 10 minutes to yourself.  (2) Find a relaxing comfortable space. (3) Practice breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.  (4) Focus on each breath work allowing for your entire body to relax. (5) Visualize your "happy" place.  The place where you feel safe, relaxed, and your self. You are allowed to come back to this place any time throughout your day, especially when you feel tension or stress. Wishing you more peace and less stress.
Namaste~ Kacee Tannenbaum, LCSW