Thursday, May 31, 2012



I am worth celebrating. I am worth everything. I am unique.
In the whole world, there is only me.

There is only one person with my talents, experience and gifts.
No one can take my place.

God created only me, precious in His sight.
I have immense potential to love, care, create, sacrifice,
if I believe in myself.

It doesn't matter my age, or color or whether my parents loved me or not.
(Maybe they wanted to but didn't know how.)

It doesn't matter what I have been, the things I've done, mistakes I've made, people I've hurt.
I am forgiven.

I am accepted. I am okay.  I am loved in spite of everything.
So I love myself and nourish seeds within me.

I celebrate me. I begin now, start anew.
I give myself a new birth today.
I am me, and that's all I need to be.

Today is a new beginning.
A new life given freely.
So I celebrate the miracle and
I celebrate me!

Take some time today, this week, and month to celebrate you.  Celebrate who you are and who you would like to be.  Celebrate your goals and aspirations.  You are important and worth celebrating over. ;)

If you are feeling sad, blue, or down about yourself, Provide 4 can help with teaching you skills to improve your self-esteem.  Please give our professional counselors at 954-800-0108.

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Communication Styles

Communication - the human connection - is the key to personal and career success. ~ Paul J.  Meyer

This week's theme is the three different prominent communication styles: assertive, aggressive, and passive.  I will provide education about each of the three different styles and you can determine which category you fit in.

Assertive communication is a straightforward, direct, and firm approach that allows for open expression of your needs, thoughts, and feelings.  This involves advocating for yourself while respecting the needs of others.  An example of assertive communication is: " I need help with folding laundry."

Aggressive communication is a method of expressing one's needs without taking into consideration the needs, thoughts, and feelings of others. People who express themselves with the use of assertive communication are often viewed as selfish or uncooperative. An aggressive communication style is usually linked to poor emotional development or a intentional desire to hurt another person.  An example of aggressive communication is: "You never help with the dishes." A positive way to re- frame this would be: "I need your help with the dishes."

Passive communication is a form of expression that is ineffective.  A person who uses this type of communication is usually afraid or scared of confrontation and does not feel worthy enough to make their needs, thoughts, and feelings known to others.  This person is afraid of saying no or making others angry. A doormat is what comes to my mind when thinking of this communication style. An example of passive communication is: "Well, I guess I can take you to the mall even though I have to go to work."

Which communication style do you fit in?  Do you need help with learning tools to be a more effective communicator?  Call one of our psychotherapists at 954-800-0108 to develop assertiveness!

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Create a "BETTER" you!

A wise person sooner or later discovers that life is a mixture of good days and bad, victories and defeats, prosperous times and tough times, and giving and taking.
They learn that it doesn't pay to let people or things get to their goat.
They learn that sometimes they need to act like a duck... let things roll off their backs, not eat at their stomachs.
They learn that a chip on the shoulder can end up as a chip on their tooth from an angry fist.
They learn that carrying tales or gossip is the surest way to lose a friend.
They learn that the world will not end if they fail.
They learn there is always another day and another chance if they're willing to start a new.
They learn that listening is frequently more important than talking.
They learn that to have a friend first you must be a friend.
They learn that people are not anymore difficult to get along with in one place than another.
They learn that by helping others they ultimately help themselves.
They learn that humor is the best medicine.
They learn that unconditional love and acceptance makes life easier.
They learn that none of us will get out of this life alive, so why worry--be happy for now is all there really is.

If after reading this poem you identified areas of your life that you need to work on, please call our therapists at 954-800-0108.  Our goal is to help you function at your fullest potential in all life areas.  Let's start creating a "BETTER" you!

Friday, May 4, 2012

Forgiveness: The Process of "Letting Go."

Forgiveness is letting go of the intense emotions attached to incidents from the past. It is important for an individual to no longer want to punish or get even with those who have hurt or wronged him/her.  Forgiveness is not condoning the act.  It is not absolution.  The individual does not absolve the person of thier responsbility for thier actions by forgiving them.  It is not something an individual doles out when others meet the requirments for being forgiven.  One can not say not say, "now that you have apologized, I'll forgive you." Forgiveness comes from the heart not the ego.  If an individual does not forgive, then engery is vested in another negative way.  It also depletes the individual's spirit and drains vitality. Stress can also be created by placing strain on the mind and body. Are you struggling with this process?  Provide 4 Inc. can help.  Our professional counselors are waiting for your call at 954-800-0108.