Anger is a feeling or emotion that ranges from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Often times, many people confuse anger with aggression. Aggression is behavior that is intended to cause harm or injury to another person or damage property.
Here are some following myths associated with anger. Keep track of the ones you thought were true.
Myth #1: ANGER IS INHERITED.
Evidence from research indicates that people are not born with set and specific ways of expressing anger. Rather, these studies show that the expression of anger is a learned behavior and a person can learn more appropriate ways to manage anger.
Myth #2: ANGER AUTOMATICALLY LEADS TO AGGRESSION.
Aggression is not an effective way to manage anger. There are more constructive and assertive ways to express anger. Effective anger management skills involves controlling the escalation of anger by learning assertiveness skills, changing negative and hostile "self-talk," challenging irrational beliefs, and utilizing behavioral strategies.
Myth #3: YOU MUST BE AGGRESSIVE TO GET WHAT YOU WANT.
Many people confuse assertiveness with aggression. The goal of aggression is to dominate, intimidate, harm, or injure another person. Also, known as to "win at any cost." The goal of assertiveness is to express feelings of anger that is respectful of other people. Expressing yourself in an assertive manner does not blame or threatens other people and minimizes the chance of emotional harm.
Myth #4: VENTING ANGER IS ALWAYS DESIRABLE.
Research studies have shown that people who vent their anger aggressively (such as screaming or beating on pillows, etc..) simply get better at being angry. Therefore, aggressive manner reinforces aggressive behavior.
If you thought the majority of these myths were true, you may need help with managing your anger. Give us a call today. We can help you work towards creating a BETTER YOU.